I have to be honest here, I’m getting REALLY TIRED of this trend of slim, beautiful girls who are owners of yoga blogs, yoga instagrams, yoga facebooks, posting hundreds of pictures of themselves in asanas and then being confused when they get less-than-ideal comments about them.
A few have gone so far as to write entire articles about how they “don’t understand” why people are writing mean or nasty comments or how people shouldn’t “compare themselves” to anyone else or how you just need to “love yourself” and you’ll be able to do backbends in your bikini on a beach and have hundreds of people following your every move.
Let’s get real here. It’s great to love yourself. It’s great that you are happy and comfortable in your own skin. It’s great that you discovered yoga. And I truly mean that. I don’t want anyone to feel unhappy or uncomfortable or in pain.
But I’m calling bullshit. You’re showing off. There, I’m just going to come right out and say it. You’re showing off. There is something inside you that feeds off of the compliments and adoration of strangers on the internet. Oh sure, you can call it “being inspired” by them. But if that were true, some of the hundreds of bikini asana pictures would include real life pictures – pictures where you don’t look your absolute best, pictures that show your body in a less-than-glamorous way, pictures that you didn’t photoshop. And you would OWN IT and say – this is me. I am less than perfect, just like you are all less than perfect.
But that’s not what the internet is. People are drawn to blogs and instagrams where the person portrays themselves as picture perfect – because we as readers want to see that. We love the fantasy that someone is perfect and maybe, if we do all the things that they do, we can be perfect too.
There’s a blog I recently came across where she stated she had 5 million visitors. 5 MILLION. So I hunkered down to read her blog posts to see what this amazing, fabulous, incredible blog content she had that was drawing in so many people. Know what I saw? Pictures of her looking incredibly perfect. Posts where her house looked incredibly perfect. Posts of her family where they looked incredibly perfect. ONE post where she admitted to having a crying “mommy moment” for about 1 minute and then felt better and went on to lead her perfect life. And you know what? I like her blog. It’s inspiring. Inspiring what? Well, for me to be perfect and beat myself up about how… not perfect I am. I don’t even hate her, because she doesn’t profess to be anything other than what she is portraying to the world. She is perfect and she owns it, and she doesn’t beg me to believe anything other than that.
That’s where I have the problem. Having a blog is like being an actor. STAY IN CHARACTER. Don’t post perfection and then beg everyone to believe you are not perfect. We smell bullshit and that’s why you are getting mean comments.